0 Today's Lifestyle is a Disease in itself - An Indian Perspective

Modern science through improved sanitation, vaccination, and antibiotics, and medical attention has eliminated the threat of death from most infectious diseases. This means that death from lifestyle diseases like heart disease and cancer are now the primary causes of death. Everybody naturally has to die of something, but lifestyle diseases take people before their time. Too many people are dying relatively young from Heart Disease and Cancer and other lifestyle diseases in modern times. today's lifestyle
In India the situation is quite alarming. The disease profile is changing rapidly. The World health Organization (WHO) has identified India as one of the nations that is going to have most of the lifestyle disorders in the near future. Nowadays, not only are lifestyle disorders becoming more common, but they are also affecting younger population. Hence, the population at risk shifts from 40+ to maybe 30+ or even younger. Already considered the diabetes capital of the world, India now appears headed towards gaining another dubious distinction — of becoming the lifestyle-related disease capital as well. A study conducted jointly by the All India Institute of Medical Sciences and Max Hospital shows the incidence of hypertension, obesity and heart disease is increasing at an alarming rate, especially in the young, urban population. According to doctors say, a sedentary lifestyle combined with an increase in the consumption of fatty food and alcohol is to blame cases of obesity, diabetes, hypertension etc.
Lifestyle Disorders in India causing death

Heart Risk

• India No.1 in cardiac patients:  10% population affected, US/Europe No. 2: 7% each; China: 4%.
• Heart Diseases to be single greatest 'killer' in India by 2015 (WHO).
• 50 million people in India suffer from heart problems. Number expected to double by 2010.
• Highest growth among young executives:  1 of 8 is under 40 years.
• Heart attacks among executives at 10 years ahead of global average age:  Prevention needs to start in early 20s.
• Prevalence of CAD up from 17.5% to 35% among corporate executives in past decade: two-fold rise
• Heart attacks kill one in every 10 Indians

Obesity/ Diabetes

• 31 percent of urban Indians are either overweight or obese
• Obesity can, in fact, triple the risk of heart disease.
• India has one of the highest numbers of diabetic patients in the world, as many as 30 million, and growing by the day.

Stress/ Hypertension/Lipids

• Hypertension & Stress, especially from work, account for more than 50% of heart ailments
• 100 million people in India have high blood pressure
• Two out of three employees in India are  victim of stress
• Over 40% of urban Indians have high lipid levels (cholesterol and triglycerides)  that are the major risk factors for heart disease 

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Source: IOA,2008

Dictionary meaning of Lifestyle disease: A disease associated with the way a person or group of people lives. Lifestyle diseases are diseases that appear to become ever more widespread as countries become more industrialized. These are different from other diseases because they are potentially preventable, and can be lowered with changes in diet, lifestyle, and environment. These include hypertension , heart disease, stroke, obesity ,diabetes, diseases associated with smoking and alcohol and drug abuse, tobacco- and nutrition-induced cancers, chronic bronchitis, emphysema  and premature mortality.

TOP LIFE STYLE DISEASES

Name	Comments
Alzheimer's Disease: a form of brain disease.	No one knows the exact cause, but a real breakdown of the cells of the brain does occur. There is no treatment, but good nutrition may slow the progress of this lifestyle disease.
Arteriosclerosis: A generic term for several diseases in which the arterial wall becomes thicken and loses elasticity. Atherosclerosis is the most common and serious vascular disease.	Plaques (atheromas) deposited in the walls of arteries are major causes of heart disease, chest pain (angina pectoris), heart attacks, and other disorders of the circulation. Atherosclerosis usually occurs with aging. It is linked to overweight, high blood pressure, and diabetes.
Cancer: diseases characterized by uncontrolled, abnormal growth of cells.	Cancer is definitely considered the number one Disease of Civilization. There are more than 150 different kinds of cancer and many different causes.
	Top 5 Cancers
	MEN 1. Prostate (28%)     2.    2. Lung (17%) 3. Colorectal (12%) 4. Bladder (07%) Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma (04%)	WOMEN 1. Breast (30%) 2. Lung (13%) 3. Colorectal (12%) 4. Uterus (06%) Ovary (04%)
Chronic Liver Disease/Cirrhosis: any of a group of liver disorders.	Characteristics of liver disease are jaundice, loss of appetite, liver enlargement, fluid accumulation, and impaired consciousness.
Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD): a disease characterized by slowly progressing, irreversible airway obstruction.	The symptoms are problems in breathing while exercising, difficulty in breathing in or out deeply, and sometimes a long-term cough. The condition may result from chronic bronchitis, emphysema, asthma, or chronic bronchiolitis. Cigarette smoking and air pollution make it worse.
Diabetes: a disease affecting sugars used by the body.	There are four main types of diabetes mellitus. Type I diabetes is also called insulin-dependent diabetes, juvenile-onset diabetes, brittle diabetes, or ketosis-prone diabetes. Type II diabetes is also called non-insulin-dependent diabetes, adult-onset diabetes, ketosis-resistant diabetes, or stable diabetes. Type II often develops in over weight adults. Type III, or gestational diabetes, occurs in some women during pregnancy. Type IV includes other types of diabetes are linked to disease of the pancreas, hormonal changes, side effects of drugs, or genetic defects.
Heart Disease: any of several abnormalities that affect the heart muscle or the blood vessels of the heart.	Heart disease has been the number one cause of mortality and morbidity. There are a couple dozen forms of this lifestyle disease. Heart disease and other forms of cardiovascular disease can lead to congestive heart failure, a condition in which the heart cannot pump sufficient blood to meet the demands of the body.
Nephritis/CRF: any disease of the kidney marked by swelling and abnormal function.	Characteristics of kidney disease are bloody urine, persistent protein in urine, pus in urine, difficult urination, and pain in the back.
Stroke: a condition due to the lack of oxygen to the brain that may lead to reversible or irreversible paralysis.	Stroke is linked to advanced age, high blood pressure, previous attacks of poor circulation, cigarette smoking, heart disorders, embolism, family history of strokes, use of birth-control pills, diabetes mellitus, lack of exercise, overweight, high cholesterol etc

It is predicted that globally, deaths from non communicable diseases (NCD) will increase by 77% between 1990 and 2020 and that most of these deaths will occur in the developing regions of the world including India. These conditions not only cause enormous human suffering, they also threat the economies of many countries as they impact on the older and experienced members of the workforce. In India alone, heart ailments, stroke and diabetes are the most demanding ones which are expected to eat away the country's gross national income to a huge extent by the year 2015. Nowadays, worldwide the true picture is, the sedentary lifestyle is more dangerous for our health than smoking. Researchers of University of Hong Kong in a study looked at the level of physical activity in people who died and were able to correlate their level of physical activity with their risk of dying.
The results are fascinating: 20% of all deaths of people 35 and older were attributed to a lack of physical activity. That's more deaths than can be attributed to smoking. Looking at specific diseases, the risk of dying from cancer increased 45% for men and 28% for women due to lack of physical activity. The risk of dying from respiratory ailments was 92% higher for men and 75% higher for women. The risk of dying from heart disease was 52% higher for men and 28% higher for women, all due to a lack of physical activity.

 

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  In India, the scenario is quite worse. It is said that, the possibility of an Indian suffering from a lifestyle disease is four per cent greater than people from other nationalities. Changing lifestyle is mainly responsible for an increase in the number of people suffering from hypertension, stress and other heart ailments. Today's 24x7 world order leaves little room for entertainment, social life, exercise and regular eating and sleeping patterns. Time is being converted into money and personal priorities take back seats as corporate interests and personal ambitions take centre stage.  Only when our body starts showing signs of fatigue and inability, we look at our daily routine and think how the same impacts our personal lives. Doctors term these diseases as 'affluent society diseases', which are mainly caused due to reduced physical activity and consumption of fast food and alcohol. Since factors like heredity, sex, age cannot be avoided, one must manage one's lifestyle to avoid being at risk of different lifestyle dominated diseases.

In this context, the people suffering from different ailments or those who stays in the risk zone, should have periodic health checkups for early detection of risk factors and diseases.  Regular health-checks coupled with lifestyle changes can go a long way in prevention, early detection and cure of diseases. Preventive healthcare involves health promotion, which is aimed at modifying the individual's social circumstance and lifestyle, which can be also termed as Lifestyle Medicine.

Lifestyle Medicine is nothing but  the use of lifestyle interventions in the treatment and management of lifestyle diseases. Such interventions include diet rectifications (good nutrition), exercise, stress management, smoking cessation, and a variety of other non-drug modalities. A growing body of scientific evidence has demonstrated that lifestyle intervention is an essential component in the treatment of chronic disease that can be effective when used appropriately with medication.

The emphasis of lifestyle medicine  is on:

 Assessing lifestyle
 Evaluating the risk factors   Evaluating laboratory reports
 Discussing the opportunities for interventions
 Prescribing an optimal lifestyle  Tracking and follow-ups

Other than lifestyle interventions in various forms, the  healthy lifestyle habits that each member of the society should practice are:
- A strict No to - Smoking
                      - Alcohol
                      - Illegal Drugs
                      - Hypertension
                      - Stress
- Eat Low Fat, Low Salt, High Fiber Diet
- Do Physical Activity etc.

Lifestyle diseases are our own creation. Most men are unable to resist the temptation of  cocktail partying, obsession with shopping, workaholism, sedentary living environment, , blind pleasure psychosis, suffocating dispositions, exchanging conscience and faith with wealth, consumption-based happiness indices, absence of regular sleep, leisure, socialising, taking metric kilos of junk food, and finally the mad march against indomitable time. The only remedy lies in the fact that, man needs to control his senses, freshen up his common sense to make life more convenient in the long run.  

References  today's lifestyle :
1. Adams M; Sedentary lifestyle causes more deaths than smoking, says study; Natural news.com
2. Hatfield F. (2004);Exercise and Diabetes; Fitness the Complete Guide

3. Jenkins M. & O'Connell M. (2005); Nutrition: You Really Are What You Eat;The Jump Off

4. Bhatia.C; (2008);We are more prone to lifestyle disorders, a healthy diet is the only solution; Express India
5. Sassi F and Hurst J(2008); The Prevention of Lifestyle-related Chronic Diseases: An Economic Framework; OECD Health Working Paper
6. Stanelli De (2007); Dangers Of A Sedentary Lifestyle- Disease Risks Associated To Physical Inactivity; Suite101.com

7. Lifestyle Diseases-The Natural Health Perspective tm

0 The Danger Free Sex

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Cries arose from pounding a young women .. Then followed the shrill sound of teenage girls screaming his voice .. Everything requires a sound one and the same demand: "Where happiness and pleasure? Where is the peace of mind and resolve it? "We get carried away by grief and falling down in the mouth .. Sleeping rough due to the many sins that wrap the ceiling of our hearts. We were surrounded by the smoldering lust, and TV screens membangkitakn our sexual stimulation .. While a speck of faith left in our hearts call you .. Help us!!  The Danger Free Sex


Sister Muslimah! We live in an era where many diverse information tool. The material civilization of the world was voiced that meet the entertainment and pleasure .. Separation between happiness and misery closer.  The Danger Free Sex


In the midst of rough seas with waves that roll was a Muslim slander about her fear caused by the spread of Syubuhat (things lit) and the number lust lust. 
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Rasulullah SAW said:


((إن بين أيديكم فتنا كقطع الليل المظلم, يصبح الرجل فيها مؤمنا, ويمسي كافرا, ويمسي مؤمنا ويصبح كافرا))
"Sesunggunya in front of you will be a lot of slander like dark night, a person becomes a believer in the morning and disbelieve in the afternoon, a believer in the evening and disbelieve in the morning." [HR Abu Dawud]


Due to the high desire for paradise as wide as the heavens and the earth and because of fear slipping in kubang destruction, then sip the clear river water and emits light from the word of God and the words of His Messenger SAW, it will eliminate cruelty, releasing the grip of Satan and ripped open the enhanced by immoral. Grace is God-Almighty will reach you to save you from a painful torment and keeps you from falling into one of the doors of the doors of destruction and perdition. 
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Sister Muslimah! Among the greatest danger threatening the Muslim woman is the influence libido and impotence in the face of the door opening and the gapaian them. Caused by the beginning-the beginning of the considered trivial, but it can menggelincirkannya into that forbidden fornication.


Iman Ahmad-rahimahullah-said: "I do not know of any major sin after suicide than fornication."


Allah-Almighty and His Messenger have forbidden fornication because this act nasty and ugly introduction means. God-Almighty-ban approach means and cause of adultery because it is the first step before it plunged into it. Allah Ta'ala says:


} ولا تقربوا الزنى إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا {
"And come not nigh to fornication; fact that adultery was a heinous act. And an evil way. "(Surat al-Isra ': 32)


Including fornication sins after shirk and murder, and included .... , Abomination of desolation and deadly crime. Rasulullah SAW said:


((ما من ذنب بعد الشرك أعظم عند الله من نطفة وضعها رجل في رحم لا يحل له))
"It is not a sin after shirk greater in the sight of Allah than a drop of semen is placed in the uterus of a man who is not permissible for him."


In the hadith Agreed Alaihi:


((لايزني الزاني حين يزني وهو مؤمن))


"It is not the adulterers as adultery, while her faith."


Keharamannya confirmed again by God-Almighty in His Word:


} والذين لا يدعون مع الله إلها ءاخر ولا يقتلون النفس التي حرم الله إلا بالحق ولا يزنون ومن يفعل ذلك يلق أثاما يضاعف له العذاب يوم القيامة ويخلد فيه مهانا إلا من تاب وءامن وعمل عملا صالحا فأولئك يبدل الله سيئاتهم حسنات وكان الله غفورا رحيما {


"And those who do not worship any other god along with Allah and do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden (to kill) except with (reason) is true and not commit adultery, whoever do so, surely he gets (retaliation sin (her) ( ie) torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will be forever in torment, in a state of humiliation. Except those who repent, believe and do pious deeds; then evil they replaced God with benevolence., and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Compassionate. "(Surat al-Furqan: 68-70)


In this verse Allah-Almighty-unite with shirk fornication and suicide, as well as making the punishment all eternity in the form of punishment that many times. During a servant of the cause has not been raised in the form of repentance, faith and pious charity.
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God-Almighty-luck and safety requires a pubic servant to keep from sliding on fornication. And there is no way to salvation except by leaving. God-Almighty-said:


قد أفلح المؤمنون} {- إلى قوله -} والذين هم لفروجهم حافظون إلا على أزواجهم أو ما ملكت أيمانهم فإنهم غير ملومين {


"Indeed, fortunately those who believe-until-verse And those who keep his cock, except for their wives or slaves they have; then surely they are in this case not blameworthy." (Surah Al-Mu'minun: 1-6)


Sister Muslimah! Zina was humiliation that will destroy a magnificent building, bowed his head high, blackening the face of white and sharp verbal mute. And that is a debasement of the most capable undressing honor anyway possible. And also the black dirt when befall a family, it will cover the Eid-life white sheets and views matapun not see anything except black and ugly.
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Zina Punishment






Allah SWT fornication specializes in three sentences:


1. Killed by an ugly form of murder and torture that hard.


2. God forbids His servants feel sorry and pity for adultery.


3. God commanded that the punishment was witnessed by the mu'minin, and it does so more to the purpose and wisdom upheld this punishment.


The sentences in the world, is to enforce the punishment for adultery both men and married women be stoned with stones until death so that all members feel his torment as punishment for both. Both are thrown with stones as a picture that they had destroyed a household, then they stoned by using stones from buildings they had destroyed it. If both are not married, then they whipped 100 times with the most violent lashes and banished from his country for a year.


Among the adultery punishment as the Lord is like the Prophet Muhammad:


((تفتح أبواب السماء نصف الليل فينادي مناد: هل من داع فيستجاب له? هل من سائل فيعطى? هل من مكروب فيفرج عنه? فلا يبقى مسلم يدعو بدعوة إلا استجاب الله له إلا زانية تسعى بفرجها))


"The doors of heaven are opened in the middle of last night, and no one calling:" Is there anyone who asked and was granted his request? Is there anyone who asks and demands be met? Is there anyone who hit something bad and then released him? Then no one muslimpun who pleaded with the request unless disapproved by Allah, except for women adulterers who sells his honor. "[HR Ahmad and Tabarani with a hasan isnaad]


And in between due to the spread of this heinous act of adultery which is the emergence of various diseases, as pointed out in the hadith:


((لم تظهر الفاحشة في قوم حتى يعلنوا بها إلا فشى فيهم الطاعون والأوجاع التي لم تكن مضت في أسلافهم الذين مضوا))


"It would seem an act fahisah (adultery) on a people until they announce it unless they are overwritten infectious diseases and other diseases that have not been there on those before them." [HR Ibn Majah]


And it can be seen now on the people and allow the people who let this dirty deed.


Abdullah bin Mas'ud said: "It seems a usury and fornication in the land but God will destroy them."


And among a result of fornication is like as the Lord ru'yah Prophet Muhammad in the hadith:


((... فانطلقنا إلى ثقب مثل التنور أعلاه ضيق وأسفله واسع يتوقد نارا, فإذا اقترب ارتفعوا حتى كاد أن يخرجوا فإذا خمدت رجعوا فيها, وفيها رجال ونساء عراة فقلت من هؤلاء? قالا لي: هؤلاء هم الزناة والزواني)) وجاء في الحديث أيضا: ( (أن من زنى بامرأة كان عليه وعليها في القبر نصف عذاب هذه الأمة))


"Then we also go to a hole, like a boiler superiors and subordinates narrowly wide and then lit the fire. When approached, they will rise to nearly knocked them out, and when they returned the fire dimmed down. In it there is a group of men and women who are naked, so I asked: "Who are they? Both of them replied: "They are artisan adultery men and women." And in the hadith also there: "Surely a man who committed adultery battery with a woman, then for both of them in the grave will be tortured half torment these people."


Among the punishment of adultery is: did it collects all kinds of evil such as lack of religion, have no wara '(try to avoid sin), have no manners, no ghirah (jealousy). So we're not going to find a adulterers who have wara ', keeping promises, honesty in words, keeping the bonds of friendship and does not have a full ghirah his family.
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Among result is adultery: a black face and dark, dark heart because its light is lost, the soul is filled with sadness, anxiety, and far from from the tranquility. Short life, blessing revoked and indigence that would happen to him. In one atsar mentioned:


(إن الله مهلك الطغاة ومفقر الزناة)


"Verily, Allah destroy the Evil and menfakirkan the adultery."


Among other consequences of adultery are: the culprit is no longer bears the name as both a noble person, a good man and a fair man, otherwise will bear the name of the ugly as a wicked, adulterers and traitors. Eeriness covering his face, narrow and liver disease treatments.
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And among the greatest result of adultery is Su'ul Khotimah (end of life of the poor). Ibnul Qoyyim said:


"If you look at the state of most of the people who dzakaratul death, then you will see an obstacle between him and Husnul khotimah, as a result of the bad deeds they have done."


Sister Muslimah! Be careful! Do not bring myself to do immoral either small or large. Arab women first Ignorance hates adultery and redha not overwrite free people. When Rasulullah SAW them not to swear to Allah with nothing, no stealing and adultery. Hind bint 'Utbah said in amazement: "Is there a free woman taken in adultery, O Messenger of Allah!


In one Arab proverb says: "A free woman died and did not eat from a business selling yourself"


Sister Muslimah! Remember! That God sees you, he shall not violate his commands and mired in what he murkai.






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Sister Muslimah! May God keep you and menghiasimu with taqwa! Go through the path of salvation! Arise from your sleep! Stay away from anything that can lead you to destruction and bring humiliation. Among the means of salvation are as follows:


1. Not alone with other men who are not mahram forever, whether at home, in cars, in shops, on planes, and so on. Be a people obedient to God-Almighty and His Messenger. So do not disobey them easily. Rasulullah SAW said:


((ما خلا رجل بامرأة إلا كان الشيطان ثالثهما))


"It is not a man alone with a woman except that the third is the devil."


2. Not too often go out into the market and the limited ability to worship Allah by staying at home, following the commandments of God-Almighty-:


وقرن في بيوتكن} {


"And let you stay in your house" (QSAl-Ahzab: 33)


Abdullah ibn Mas'ud said:


(ما قربت المرأة إلى الله بأعظم من قعودها في بيتها)


"There is no God taqorub a woman lived in the home exceeded."


And when it came out let along muhrimmu or woman who can be trusted from the family. And do not lower your voice and prostrate in-spoken with the seller. Not what you loss some amount of the losses fall on your religion. Naudzu Billah.


3. Avoid tabarruj (adorned themselves with make-up) and Sufoor (do not close the genitals) when out of the house, because it was causing slander and attract attention. Rasulullah SAW said:


((صنفان من أهل النار)) وذكر منهما ((نساء كاسيات عاريات مائلات مميلات ..))


"There are two classes of inhabitants of hell-and mentioned one of them-a woman who dressed but naked and walk sideways while waddle."


And the clothing is advisable to wear 'abaya or aba `a simple (black light clothing that covers the body), meutup both hands and feet, and do not use the veil (which only show their eyes, but it must be a full-face mask including both eyes) and avoid the use of perfumes. Let your copying and Shohabiyat Ummahatul Mu'minin (women companions Prophet), if they were out of the house like a stork wearing black clothes, no nothing from their bodies.
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4. Avoid O Sister Muslimah reading magazines destructive and watch movies forno, because it would arouse sexual desire and call it dismissive indecency with "love and friendship" and fornication appeared to call this "a mature loving relationship between a man men and women ". Do not destroy your house, your heart and your mind with relations that are forbidden.
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5. God-Almighty-said:


} ومن الناس من يشتري لهو الحديث ليضل عن سبيل الله بغير علم ويتخذها هزوا أولئك لهم عذاب مهين {


"And among men (there are) people who use words that are not useful to mislead (men) from the path of Allah without knowledge, and make the mockery of God. They will have a humiliating torment. "(Surah Luqman: 6)


Then avoid listening to songs and music, adorn your hearing by chanting holy verses of the Qur'an, dhikr and seek forgiveness rutinlah reading, multiply dzikrul death (remember death) and Muhasabtun Nafsi (self-evaluation). Know that when you sinners to God-Almighty-so you actually immoral to him with favors that He has given to you, so be careful not to favor it lifted from you.


6. Fear the Most High, Almighty, All-Knowing nothing is hidden. It is fear of the most high keep a person from immoral acts. Suppose that one day you slip on a thousandth of fornication. So what if it is known by your father, your mother, your brothers, your relatives or your husband? In the eyes and lips when you die they regard you as an adulterer? Naudzu Billahi min forbid.


7. Let you have a friend sholehah that help and assist you, because man is weak while the devil is ready to pounce on the go. Avoid a bad friend, because he will come to you like a thief who entered clandestinely seeking opportunities until he menggelincirkanmu on things that are forbidden. Remember the Prophet Muhammad's uncle, he is an old man and have a straight mind, but even so because of a bad friend, Abu Jahl who was present at his side when he died the cause of death in the state of shirk.


8. Expand pray, as the prophet of this people, including someone who had been reading a lot of prayers and seek forgiveness.


9. Do not be a time that elapsed unless you read the Qur'an. Try to memorize what is easy of the Quran. If you have a high spirit then join the group Tahfidzul Qur'an for women, because if you're not busy yourself with obedience and worship then he will be preoccupied by sleaze.


10. Actually what you are looking for in relationships that are forbidden to pass the time or to meet compassion is basically a result of the spiritual emptiness and the heart as well as the narrowness of the chest that comes from a person away from obedience and worship. God-Almighty-said:


} ومن أعرض عن ذكري فإن له معيشة ضنكا {


"And whosoever turns away from My reminder, verily for him narrow livelihood." (Surah Taha: 124)


11. Remember that you will leave this world with the sheets that you write all the days of your life, if lembara-sheets were full of devotion and worship, then cheer up. And if otherwise then immediately repent before death. Because it was a doomsday regret. Allah says:


وأنذرهم يوم الحسرة} {


"And give them a warning about the day of regret." (Surah Maryam: 39)


That is the opening day (all that is hidden) and sheets of flying. The day that a nursing mother forget her child she was breast-fed. Remember O Muslim Sister! days where you lay in the tomb alone.


12. Sister Muslimah! Phone has plunged many women, so do not be one of them. If you are tested by a wolf-faced man and you have started a forbidden relationship with him, then let's quickly break before continuing. And know that Allah gives you a way out and the safety of her.


13. Remember! O you who seek happiness and try to heaven, that's all in order to obey God and live His commandments.


} من عمل صالحا من ذكر أو أنثى وهو مؤمن فلنحيينه حيوة طيبة {


"Whoever works pious, both men and women in a state of faith, verily to him will We give a good life." (Surat an-Nahl: 97)


Remember that leaving immoral lighter than the asking repentance. I remind you the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad:


((إذا صامت المرأة خمسها, وصامت شهرها, وحصنت فرجها, وأطاعت بعلها, دخلت من أي أبواب الجنة شاءت))


"If a woman prayed five times a day, fasting in the month of Ramadan, keeping his cock and obedient to her husband and he will enter the gates of heaven wherever he wants."


May God give you a clue that could give clues to orng another woman make you noble, righteous and holy, decorate yourself with faith and make you sholehah and obedient women, and among those who were called later on the big event:


(ادخلوا الجنة لا خوف عليكم ولا أنتم تحزنون {


"Come into the Garden, there is no concern to you, and not (too) ye grieve." (Surat al-A'raf: 49)

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0 Bahaya seks bebas (Free Sex Danger)

Teriakan bertalu-talu timbul dari seorang wanita usia muda .. Disusul kemudian lengkingan suara remaja putri yang berteriak dengan suara yang .. Semuanya menuntut dengan suara yang satu dan permintaan yang sama: “Di manakah kebahagiaan dan kesenangan itu? Di manakah ketenangan jiwa dan ketetapan hati itu?” Kami terbawa oleh kesedihan dan tertimpa gundah gulana .. Tidur tak nyenyak disebabkan oleh banyaknya dosa yang menyelimuti langit-langit hati kami. Kami dikelilingi oleh syahwat yang membara, dan layar-layar TV membangkitakn rangsangan seks kami .. Sementara setitik iman masih tersisa dalam hati kami memanggil kalian .. Tolonglah kami!!Bahaya seks bebas (Free Sex Danger)

Ukhti Muslimah !! Kita hidup pada zaman di mana sarana informasi beraneka ragam banyaknya. Duniapun menyuarakan peradaban materi yang memenuhi tempat-tempat hiburan dan kesenangan .. Menjauhkan kebahagiaan dan mendekatkan kesengsaraan.

Di tengah-tengah lautan ganas dengan ombak yang menggulung itu seorang muslim merasa takut fitnah mengenai dirinya disebabkan oleh tersebarnya Syubuhat (hal-hal remang) dan banyaknya syahwat hawa nafsu.

Rasulullah SAW bersabda:

((إنَّ بَيْنَ أيْدِيكُمْ فِتَنًا كَقِطَعِ اللَّيْلِ المُظْلِمِ ، يُصْبِحُ الرَّجُلُ فِيهَا مُؤْمِنًا، وَيُمْسِي كَافِرًا ، وَيُمْسِي مُؤْمِنًا وَيُصْبِحُ كَافِرًا))

“Sesunggunya di hadapan kalian akan banyak fitnah bagaikan malam gelap gulita, seseorang menjadi mu’min di pagi hari dan menjadi kafir di sore hari, menjadi mu’min di sore hari dan menjadi kafir di pagi hari.” [H.R. Abu Daud]

Karena keinginan yang tinggi terhadap surga yang seluas langit dan bumi dan karena ketakutan tergelincir dalam kubang kehancuran, maka teguklah air sungai yang jernih dan memancarkan cahaya dari firman Allah dan sabda Rasul-Nya SAW, itu akan menghilangkan kebengisan, melepaskan cengkraman setan dan merobek tirai yang dipercantik oleh maksiat. Rahmat Allah –Azza wa Jalla- akan menggapaimu untuk menyelamatkanmu dari siksaan yang pedih dan menjagamu dari kejatuhan ke dalam salah satu pintu di antara pintu-pintu kehancuran dan kebinasaan. Bahaya seks bebas (Free Sex Danger)

Ukhti Muslimah !! Di antara bahaya terbesar yang mengancam seorang wanita muslimah adalah pengaruh nafsu seks dan terbukanya pintu syahwat di hadapan dan dalam gapaian mereka. Disebabkan oleh permulaan-permulaan yang dianggap remeh, tetapi bisa menggelincirkannya ke dalam perbuatan zina yang diharamkan itu.   Bahaya seks bebas (Free Sex Danger)

Iman Ahmad -Rahimahullah- berkata: “Saya tidak tahu adanya dosa besar setelah bunuh diri melebihi perbuatan zina.”

Allah –Azza wa Jalla- dan Rasul-Nya telah mengharamkan perbuatan zina karena kejinya perbuatan ini dan jeleknya sarana pengantarnya. Allah –Azza wa Jalla- melarang mendekati sarana dan penyebab zina karena itu adalah langkah awal sebelum terperosok ke dalamnya. Allah Ta’ala berfirman:

}وَلاَ تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَى إنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلاً{

“Dan janganlah kamu mendekati zina; sesungguhnya zina itu adalah suatu perbuatan yang keji. Dan suatu jalan yang buruk.”                       (Q.S. Al-Isra’: 32)

Perbuatan zina termasuk dosa besar setelah syirik dan pembunuhan, dan termasuk …. , kekejian yang membinasakan dan kejahatan yang mematikan. Rasulullah SAW bersabda:

((مَا مِنْ ذَنْبٍ بَعْدَ الشِّرْكِ أعْظَمُ عِنْدَ اللهِ مِنْ نُطْفَةٍ وَضَعَهَا رَجُلٌ فِي رَحِمٍ لاَ يَحِلُّ لَهُ))

“Tidaklah suatu dosa setelah syirik yang lebih besar di sisi Allah dari setetes air mani yang diletakkan seorang lelaki pada rahim yang tidak dihalalkan baginya.”

Dalam hadits Muttafaqun ‘Alaihi:

((لاَيَزْنِي الزَّانِي حِينَ يَزْنِي وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ))

“Tidaklah seorang penzina ketika berzina, sementara dia beriman.”

Keharamannya dipertegas lagi oleh Allah –Azza wa Jalla- dalam firman-Nya:

}وَالَّذِينَ لاَ يَدْعُونَ مَعَ اللهِ إلَهًا ءَاخَرَ وَلاَ يَقْتُلُونَ النَّفْسَ الَّتِي حَرَّمَ اللهُ إلاَّ بِالحَقِّ وَلاَ يَزْنُونَ وَمَنْ يَفْعَلْ ذَلِكَ يَلْقَ أثَامًا يُضَاعَفْ لَهُ العَذَابُ يَوْمَ القِيَامَةِ وَيَخْلُدْ فِيهِ مُهَانًا إلاَّ مَنْ تَابَ وَءَامَنَ وَعَمِلَ عَمَلاً صَالِحًا فَأُولَئِكَ يُبَدِّلُ اللهُ سَيِّئَاتِهِمْ حَسَنَاتٍ وَكَانَ اللهُ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا{

“Dan orang-orang yang tidak menyembah tuhan yang lain beserta Allah dan tidak membunuh jiwa yang diharamkan Allah (membunuhnya) kecuali dengan (alasan) yang benar dan tidak berzina, barangsiapa yang melakukan demikian itu, niscaya dia mendapat (pembalasan dosa(nya) (yaitu) akan dilipat gandakan adzab untuknya pada hari kiamat dan dia akan kekal dalam adzab itu, dalam keadaan terhina. Kecuali orang-orang yang bertaubat, beriman dan mengerjakan amal sholeh; maka kejahatan mereka diganti Allah dengan kebajikan. Dan adalah Allah Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Penyayang.”              (Q.S. Al-Furqon: 68-70)

Dalam ayat ini Allah –Azza wa Jalla- menggandengkan perbuatan zina dengan perbuatan syirik dan bunuh diri, serta menjadikan hukuman itu semua berupa kekalan di dalam azab yang berlipat-lipat. Selama seorang hamba belum mengangkat penyebabnya berupa taubat, iman dan amal sholeh.

Allah –Azza wa Jalla- mensyaratkan keberuntungan dan keselamatan seorang hamba dengan menjaga kemaluan agar tidak tergelincir pada perbuatan zina. Dan tidak ada jalan menuju ke keselamatan kecuali dengan meninggalkannya. Allah –Azza wa Jalla- berfirman:

}قَدْ أفْلَحَ المُؤْمِنُونَ{ -إلى قَوْلِهِ- }وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ إلاَّ عَلَى أزْوَاجِهِمْ أوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ{

“Sesungguhnya beruntunglah orang-orang yang beriman –hingga ayat- Dan orang-orang yang menjaga kemaluannya, kecuali terhadap istri-istri mereka atau budak yang mereka miliki; maka sesungguhnya mereka dalam hal ini tiada tercela.”              (Q.S. Al-Mu’minun: 1-6)

Ukhti Muslimah !! Zina itu kehinaan yang akan menghancurkan bangunan yang megah, menundukkan kepala yang tinggi, menghitamkan wajah yang putih dan membisukan lisan yang tajam. Dan itu adalah kehinaan yang paling sanggup menanggalkan baju kehormatan bagaimanapun luasnya. Dan juga merupakan kotoran hitam yang bila menimpa suatu keluarga, maka akan menutupi lebaran-lembaran kehidupannya yang putih dan pandangan matapun tidak melihat sesuatu kecuali yang hitam dan jelek.

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Hukuman Zina

Allah SWT mengkhususkan perbuatan zina dengan tiga hukuman:

1. Dibunuh dengan bentuk pembunuhan yang jelek dan siksaan yang keras.

2. Allah melarang hamba-hamba-Nya merasa kasihan dan sayang kepada pelaku zina.

3. Allah memerintahkan agar hukuman tersebut disaksikan oleh kaum mu’minin, dan itu dilakukan agar lebih sampai kepada tujuan dan hikmah ditegakkannya hukuman ini.

Adapun hukumannya di dunia, adalah dengan menegakkan hukuman bagi pelaku zina baik laki-laki maupun perempuan yang sudah menikah berupa rajam dengan lemparan batu hingga meninggal agar seluruh anggota tubuhnya merasakan siksaan itu sebagai hukuman bagi keduanya. Keduanya dilempar dengan batu sebagai gambaran bahwa mereka telah menghancurkan suatu rumah tangga, maka keduanya dirajam dengan menggunakan batu-batu dari bangunan yang telah mereka hancurkan itu. Bila keduanya belum berkeluarga, maka mereka dicambuk sebanyak 100 kali dengan cambukan yang paling keras dan dibuang dari negeri asalnya selama satu tahun.

Di antara hukuman zina adalah seperti apa yang disabdakan Rasulullah SAW:

((تُفْتَحُ أبْوَابُ السَّمَاءِ نِصْفَ اللَّيْلِ فَيُنَادِي مُنَادٍ : هَلْ مِنْ دَاعٍ فَيُسْتَجَابُ لَهُ ؟ هَلْ مِنْ سَائِلٍ فَيُعْطَى ؟ هَلْ مِنْ مَكْرُوبٍ فَيُفَرَّجُ عَنْهُ؟ فَلاَ يَبْقَى مُسْلِمٌ يَدْعُو بِدَعْوَةٍ إلاَّ اسْتَجَابَ اللهُ لَهُ إلاَّ زَانِيَةً تَسْعَى بِفَرْجِهَا))

“Pintu-pintu surga akan dibuka pada pertengahan malam lalu, lalu ada yang menyeru: “Adakah orang yang memohon lalu permohonannya dikabulkan? Adakah orang yang meminta lalu permintaannya dipenuhi? Adakah orang yang tertimpa sesuatu yang jelek lalu dibebaskan darinya? Maka tidak ada seorang muslimpun yang memohon dengan suatu permohonan kecuali dikabulkan oleh Allah, kecuali wanita penzina yang menjual kehormatannya.” [H.R. Ahmad dan Tabarani dengan sanad hasan]

Dan di antara akibat tersebarnya perbuatan zina yang keji ini adalah timbulnya berbagai macam penyakit, sebagaimana disinyalir dalam hadits:

((لَمْ تَظْهَرِ الفَاحِشَةُ فِي قَوْمٍ حَتَّى يُعْلِنُوا بِهَا إلاَّ فَشَى فِيهِمِ الطَّاعُونَ وَالأوْجَاعُ الَّتِي لَمْ تَكُنْ مَضَتْ فِي أسْلاَفِهِمْ الَّذِينَ مَضَوا))

“Tidaklah nampak suatu perbuatan fahisah (zina) pada suatu kaum hingga mereka mengumumkannya kecuali mereka akan ditimpa penyakit menular dan penyakit-penyakit lain yang belum pernah ada pada orang-orang dulu sebelum mereka.” [H.R. Ibnu Majah]

Dan hal itu dapat disaksikan sekarang ini pada umat-umat yang membiarkan dan membolehkan perbuatan kotor ini.

Abdullah bin Mas’ud berkata: “Tidaklah nampak suatu riba dan zina pada suatu negeri kecuali Allah akan menghancurkan mereka.”

Dan di antara akibat perbuatan zina ini adalah seperti apa yang disabdakan Rasulullah SAW dalam hadits Ru’yah:

((… فَانْطَلَقْنَا إلَى ثَقَبٍ مِثْلَ التَّنُّورِ أعْلاَهُ ضَيِّقٌ وَأسْفَلَهُ وَاسِعٌ يُتَوَقَّدُ نَارًا ، فَإذَا اقْتَرَبَ ارْتَفَعُوا حَتَّى كَادَ أنْ يَخْرُجُوا فَإذَا خَمِدَتْ رَجَعُوا فِيهَا ، وَفِيهَا رِجَالٌ وَنِسَاءٌ عُرَاةٌ فَقُلْتُ مَنْ هَؤُلاَءِ ؟ قَالاَ لِي : هَؤُلاَءِ هُمُ الزُّنَاةُ وَالزَّوَانِي)) وَجَاءَ فِي الحَدِيثِ أيضًا : ((أنَّ مَنْ زَنَى بِامْرَأَةٍ كَانَ عَلَيهِ وَعَلَيْهَا فِي القَبْرِ نِصْفَ عَذَابِ هَذِهِ الأُمَّةِ))

“Maka kamipun menuju ke suatu lobang, seperti tungku yang atasannya sempit dan bawahannya luas lalu dinyalakan api. Bila mendekat maka mereka akan terangkat hingga hampir saja mereka terlempar keluar, dan bila apinya redup maka mereka kembali turun. Di dalamnya terdapat golongan laki-laki dan perempuan yang telanjang, maka saya bertanya: “Siapa mereka? Keduanya menjawab: “Mereka itu adalah tukang zina laki-laki dan perempuan.” Dan di dalam hadits pula terdapat: “Sesungguhnya seorang laki-aki yang berzina dengan seorang wanita, maka bagi keduanya di dalam kubur akan disiksa seperdua siksaan umat ini.”

Di antara hukuman zina adalah: pelakunya mengumpulkan segala jenis kejelekan seperti; kekurangan agama, tidak punya wara’ (usaha menghindari dosa), tidak punya sopan santun, tidak punya ghirah (rasa cemburu). Jadi kita tidak akan menemukan seorang penzina yang memiliki wara’, menepati janji, kejujuran dalam perkataan, menjaga ikatan persahabatan dan tidak memiliki ghirah yang penuh terhadap keluarganya.

Di antara akibat zina adalah: wajah yang hitam dan kelam, hati yang gelap karena cahayanya yang hilang, jiwa yang penuh dengan kesedihan, kegundahan, dan jauh dari dari ketenangan. Umur yang pendek, berkah yang dicabut dan kefakiran yang akan menimpanya. Dalam salah satu atsar disebutkan:

(إنَّ اللهَ مُهْلِكُ الطُّغَاةِ وَمُفَقِّرُ الزُّنَاةِ)

“Sesungguhnya Allah membinasakan para thaghut dan menfakirkan para pelaku zina.”

Di antara akibat lain dari zina adalah: pelakunya tidak lagi menyandang nama baik sebagai orang yang mulia, orang yang baik-baik dan orang yang adil, sebaliknya akan menyandang nama jelek sebagai orang yang fasik, penzina dan sebagai pengkhianat. Keseraman yang meliputi wajahnya, kesempitan dan penyakit hati yang ia derita.

Dan di antara akibat zina yang paling besar adalah Su’ul Khotimah (akhir hidup yang jelek). Ibnul Qoyyim berkata:

“Bila anda melihat keadaan sebagian besar orang yang dzakaratul maut, maka anda akan melihat adanya halangan antara dia dan husnul khotimah, sebagai akibat dari perbuatan-perbuatan jelek yang pernah mereka lakukan.”

Ukhti Muslimah !! Hati-hatilah! Jangan memberanikan diri untuk melakukan maksiat baik yang kecil maupun yang besar. Wanita-wanita Arab Jahiliyah dulu sangat membenci zina dan tidak redha menimpa orang-orang merdeka. Ketika Rasulullah SAW membaiat mereka untuk tidak mempersekutukan Allah dengan sesuatupun, tidak mencuri dan tidak berzina. Hindun binti ‘Utbah berkata dengan penuh keheranan: “Apakah ada seorang wanita merdeka yang berzina wahai Rasulullah!

Dalam salah satu pribahasa Arab mengatakan: “Seorang wanita merdeka meninggal dan tidak makan dari usaha menjual diri”

Ukhti Muslimah !! Ingatlah! Bahwa Allah melihatmu, maka janganlah melanggar perintah-Nya dan terperosok ke dalam apa yang Ia murkai.

Jalan keselamatan

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Ukhti Muslimah !! Semoga Allah menjagamu dan menghiasimu dengan taqwa! Laluilah jalan keselamatan! Bangkitlah dari tidurmu ! Jauhilah apa yang dapat menggiringmu kepada kehancuran dan membawamu kehinaan. Di antara jalan keselamatan adalah sebagai berikut:

1. Tidak berdua-duaan dengan laki-laki lain yang bukan muhrim selamanya, baik di rumah, di mobil, di toko, di pesawat dan sebagainya. Jadilah satu umat yang taat kepada Allah –Azza wa Jalla- dan Rasul-Nya. Maka janganlah dengan mudah melanggar perintah keduanya. Rasulullah SAW bersabda:

((مَا خَلاَ رَجُلٌ بِامْرَأَةٍ إلاَّ كَانَ الشَّيْطَانُ ثَالِثُهُمَا))

“Tidaklah seorang laki-laki yang berdua-duaan dengan seorang wanita kecuali yang ketiga itu adalah setan.”

2. Tidak terlalu sering keluar ke pasar sebatas kemampuan dan beribadah kepada Allah dengan tetap tinggal di rumah, dengan mengikuti perintah Allah –Azza wa Jalla-:

}وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ{

“Dan hendaklah kamu tetap di rumahmu” (Q.S.Al-Ahzab:33)

Abdullah ibnu Mas’ud berkata:

(مَا قَرُبَتِ المَرْأَةُ إلَى اللهِ بِأعْظَمِ مِنْ قُعُودِهَا فِي بَيْتِهَا)

“Tidak ada taqorub seorang wanita kepada Allah melebihi tinggalnya di rumah.”

Dan ketika keluar hendaklah bersama muhrimmu atau wanita yang dapat dipercaya dari keluargamu. Dan janganlah merendahkan suara dan berlemah lembut dalam bertutur kata dengan penjual. Tidak apa anda rugi beberapa rupiah dari pada kerugian menimpa agama anda. Naudzu Billah.

3. Hindarilah Tabarruj (berhias diri dengan make up) dan Sufur (tidak menutup aurat) ketika keluar rumah, karena itu menyebabkan fitnah dan menarik perhatian. Rasulullah SAW bersabda :

((صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أهْلِ النَّارِ)) وَذَكَرَ مِنْهُمَا ((نِسَاءٌ كَاسِيَاتٌ عَارِيَاتٌ مَائِلاَتٌ مُمِيلاَتٌ..))

“Ada dua golongan penghuni neraka –dan disebutkan salah satu di antaranya- wanita yang berpakaian tapi telanjang dan berjalan miring sambil berlenggak-lenggok.”

Dan pakaian yang paling dianjurkan adalah memakai ‘abaya atau aba`a yang sederhana (pakaian tipis berwarna hitam yang menutupi seluruh tubuh), meutup kedua tangan dan kaki, serta tidak menggunakan cadar (yang hanya menampakkan kedua mata, tetapi justru harus yang menutupi seluruh wajah termasuk kedua mata) dan menjauhi penggunaan wangi-wangian. Hendaklah anda mencontoh Ummahatul Mu’minin dan Shohabiyat (wanita-wanita sahabat Rasul), bila keluar rumah mereka itu bagaikan burung bangau yang memakai pakaian hitam, tidak sesuatupun dari tubuh mereka.

4. Hindarilah wahai Ukhti Muslimah membaca majalah-majalah yang merusak dan menonton film-film forno, karena itu akan membangkitkan nafsu seks dan meremehkan perbuatan keji dengan menamakannya “cinta dan persahabatan” dan menampakkan perbuatan zina dengan menamakannya “hubungan kasih sayang yang matang antara seorang laki-laki dan wanita”. Janganlah merusak rumahmu, hatimu dan akalmu dengan hubungan-hubungan yang diharamkan.

5. Allah –Azza wa Jalla- berfirman:

}وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَنْ يَشْتَرِي لَهْوَ الحَدِيثِ لِيُضِلَّ عِنْ سَبِيلِ اللهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَيَتَّخِذَهَا هُزُوًا أولَئِكَ لَهُمْ عَذَابٌ مُهِينٌ{

“Dan di antara manusia (ada) orang yang mempergunakan perkataan yang tidak berguna untuk menyesatkan (manusia) dari jalan Allah tanpa pengetahuan dan menjadikan jalan Allah itu olok-olokan. Mereka itu akan memperoleh adzab yang menghinakan.” (Q.S. Lukman: 6)

Maka hindarilah mendengarkan lagu-lagu dan musik, hiasilah pendengaranmu dengan lantunan ayat-ayat suci Al-Qur’an, rutinlah membaca dzikir dan istighfar, perbanyaklah dzikrul maut (ingat mati) dan Muhasabtun Nafsi (evaluasi diri). Ketahuilah bahwa ketika anda maksiat kepada Allah –Azza wa Jalla- maka sesungguhnya anda maksiat kepada-Nya dengan nikmat yang Ia berikan kepadamu, maka hati-hatilah jangan sampai nikmat itu dicabut dari diri anda.

6. Takutlah kepada Yang Maha Tinggi, Maha Kuasa dan Maha Mengetahui apa-apa yang tersembunyi. Ini adalah rasa takut yang paling tinggi yang menjauhkan seseorang dari perbuatan maksiat. Anggaplah bahwa suatu ketika anda tergelincir pada seperseribu perbuatan zina. Maka bagaimana jika seandainya hal itu diketahui oleh bapakmu, ibumu, saudara-saudaramu, kerabatmu atau suamimu? Dalam pandangan dan buah bibir mereka ketika anda meninggal menganggap anda sebagai seorang pezina? Naudzu Billahi min Dzalik.

7. Hendaklah anda memiliki teman sholehah yang menolong dan membantu anda, karena manusia itu lemah sementara setan siap menerkamnya di mana saja. Hindarilah teman yang jelek, karena ia akan datang kepada anda bagaikan seorang pencuri yang masuk secara sembunyi mencari kesempatan hingga ia menggelincirkanmu pada sesuatu yang diharamkan. Ingatlah paman nabi SAW, ia adalah lelaki tua dan memiliki akal yang lurus, tetapi walaupun demikian karena adanya teman yang jelek yaitu Abu Jahal yang hadir di sampingnya ketika wafat menjadi penyebab meninggalnya beliau dalam keadaan syirik.

8. Perbanyaklah berdoa, karena nabi umat ini termasuk orang yang senantiasa membaca doa dan banyak istighfar.

9. Janganlah hendaknya suatu waktu itu berlalu kecuali anda membaca Al-Qur’an. Berusahalah menghafal apa yang mudah dari Al-Qur’an. Kalau anda memiliki semangat yang tinggi maka bergabunglah dengan kelompok Tahfidzul Qur’an khusus wanita, karena jika diri anda tidak disibukkan dengan ketaatan dan ibadah maka ia akan disibukkan oleh kebatilan.

10. Sesungguhnya apa yang kalian cari dalam hubungan-hubungan yang diharamkan untuk mengisi waktu atau memenuhi rasa kasih sayang pada hakekatnya adalah akibat dari kekosongan rohani dan hati serta kesempitan dada yang bersumber dari jauhnya seseorang dari taat dan ibadah. Allah –Azza wa Jalla- berfirman:

}وَمَنْ أَعْرَضَ عَنْ ذِكْرِي فَإنَّ لَهُ مَعِيشَةً ضَنْكًا{

“Dan barangsiapa berpaling dari peringatan-Ku, maka sesungguhnya baginya penghidupan yang sempit.” (Q.S. Thaha: 124)

11. Ingatlah bahwa anda akan meninggalkan dunia ini dengan lembaran-lembaran yang anda tulis sepanjang hari-hari kehidupan anda, bila lembara-lembaran itu penuh dengan ketaatan dan ibadah, maka bergembiralah. Dan bila sebaliknya maka segeralah bertaubat sebelum meninggal. Karena hari kiamat itu adalah hari penyesalan. Allah berfirman:

}وَأَنْذِرْهُمْ يَوْمَ الحَسْرَةِ{

“Dan berilah mereka peringatan tentang hari penyesalan.”                           (Q.S. Maryam: 39)

Yaitu hari dibukanya (segala hal yang tersembunyi) dan lembaran-lembaran yang beterbangan. Hari di mana seorang ibu yang menyusui melupakan anaknya yang sedang ia susui. Ingatlah wahai Ukhti Muslimah! hari di mana anda berbaring di dalam kubur sendirian.

12. Ukhti Muslimah! Telepon telah menjerumuskan banyak wanita, maka janganlah menjadi salah seorang di antara mereka. Bila anda diuji oleh seekor serigala berwajah manusia dan anda telah memulai hubungan yang diharamkan dengannya, maka hendaklah segera memutuskan hubungan itu sebelum berlanjut. Dan ketahuilah bahwa Allah memberikan anda jalan keluar dan keselamatan dari padanya.

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13. Ingatlah! Wahai yang mencari kebahagiaan dan berusaha menuju surga, bahwa itu semua dalam rangka taat kepada Allah dan menjalani perintah-perintah-Nya.

}مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيوةً طَيِّبَةً{

“Barangsiapa yang mengerjakan amal sholeh, baik laki-laki maupun perempuan dalam keadaan beriman, maka sesungguhnya akan Kami berikan kepadanya kehidupan yang baik.”               (Q.S. An-Nahl: 97)

Ingatlah bahwa meninggalkan maksiat lebih ringan dari pada meminta taubat. Saya mengingatkan anda dengan hadits Rasulullah SAW:

((إذَا صَامَتِ المَرْأَةُ خَمْسَهَا، وَصَامَتْ شَهْرَهَا، وَحَصَنَتْ فَرْجَهَا، وَأطَاعَتْ بَعْلَهَا، دَخَلَتْ مِنْ أيِّ أبْوَابِ الجَنَّةِ شَاءَتْ))

“Bila seorang wanita sholat lima waktu, puasa di bulan Ramadhan, menjaga kemaluannya dan taat kepada suaminya maka ia akan memasuki pintu-pintu surga mana saja yang ia kehendaki.”

Semoga Allah memberimu petunjuk yang dapat memberikan petunjuk kepada orng lain, menjadikanmu wanita mulia, bertakwa dan suci, menghiasi dirimu dengan iman dan menjadikanmu wanita sholehah dan taat serta termasuk orang-orang yang diseru nanti pada peristiwa yang besar itu:

(ادْخُلُوا الجَنَّةَ لاَ خَوْفٌ عَلَيْكُمْ وَلاَ أنْتُمْ تَحْزَنُونَ{

“Masuklah ke dalam surga, tidak ada kekhawatiran terhadapmu dan tidak (pula) kamu bersedih hati.” (Q.S. Al-A’raaf: 49)